If you are in Vietnam and are raising one childhornThen you really have to participate in a battle.In the first years, you have to struggle with yourself: stuffing a lot or for children to choose, take supplements or let children develop naturally, diet high in nutrients or frugal toEasy to absorb.After you have been assured, your child is very horn, incur and console himself is agile, good exercise, can eat comfortably without worrying about obesity or early puberty, you willFacing another war, with those who do not admit the whistle is an advantage.And your child will face a lot of pity, or wise, or despise, vulnerable words such as:This horn is not sure if you can do it, you eat all the parts, you must be lazy to eat, right ...
Your child will face lots of pity, or nervous eyes, or despise, vulnerable words ... (Artwork).
The pitying eyes as well as those words sometimes have great destructive power that heartless adults never think of, it swirled into the vulnerable point of the child, even making children becomeBeing shy in front of the crowd, low self -esteem about his appearance.
As a mother with two sons, I often in this situation.At first, I also felt ashamed to think that I was really a bad mother, not knowing how to take care of my children.In order to fill that shame of myself, I also found ways to force my child to eat more, sometimes even felt angry and helpless because the more he forced him, the more lazy to eat.After a lot of arduous and tough struggle, I finally decided that she would stand on her side if the baby was horn.
Every time someone criticizes the whistle in front of me, I say: "I look like that, but I eat very strong, can swim continuously 80m and always top in the Taekondo class.Do not believe you try your hand with me. "And the baby's father always plays the familiar article: "The banana tree is very fast, but the iron tree in the forest is long, but its wood is precious wood."
Many times, I stopped not lacking confidence in my shape.I am passionate about playing football, practicing taekondo, swimming, swimming, and I always help me to carry things, chairs and chairs to help her, be admired and admit to being the strongest in the class, being captainThe football team is always awarded in the Teakondo exams.I understood that my power is not in the appearance, but lies in the will, internal force and I can completely be as powerful as practice.
When a child is not beautiful, good, outstanding, I understand that I have to become a shield.Whenever there is a hundred words outside of strangers, swirling into the weaknesses of the child, like the arrows create wounds in the spirit of the child, making them feel pain, I need to be human.Help my children spit themselves, not to let it deeply deeply into my heart, and I have to make my shield thicker, by telling the thousands of times that you are really strong, you canFind your own strength, you need to have faith in your goodness and strength.
When there is a child not beautiful, good, outstanding, I understand that I have to become a shield (Artwork).
Those who uttered those criticisms and mercy were actually not at fault.However, they did not understand that words that could be programmed to think.The repetition of external words to a certain extent will transform into a child's inner voice.A child who hears his parents and grandparents say: You are an immoral guy who will think you are invisible and at some point, they will behave exactly like an invisible person.The child is treated as a special student, isolated from people, not paying attention to, or always labeled, will believe that he is really damaged, so he will tend to be trend.Acting as a spoiled person.
The child is not capable of being self -aware of himself, and their visualization of their own identity depends largely on the words of others.They look at countless words that look like a mirror to create themselves.Therefore, words are not swords, but it has the same power like the sword.Words are not shackles, but it can bind and wear the child's whole life.
The child is more innocent and innocent than us, and risks, because of that innocence and pure, they always believe in the words of adults.But the child is so weak and fragile so they are so vulnerable.The same words, a behavior, adults sometimes just a joke, but he can bounce into the child for a long time after that, can become an unrelenting obsession when thinking about himself.
Children need to live in a safe environment, where the child is surrounded and protected from painful words, with a layer of armor of trusted, sympathetic and loving words (photosillustration).
We often find ways to ensure children's safety, especially body safety.We also often avoid hurting the child, especially physical damage.But a safe environment for the child is even wider.In addition to keeping the body safely, children also need to live in a safe environment, where the child is surrounded and protected from painful words, with a layer of armor of words.Trust, sympathy and love.
If no one helps children to create that armor, then I understand that I have to do it, myself, not anyone else, have to help my children create their own armor, with words and thoughts.Positive, with deep understanding and belief in the children.
I will stand on your side ifhorn.I will still stand on my side if you study poorly.I will stand on your side if you accidentally spoil.I will stand on your side even if no one admits you are a strong, good and kind child.Because only you know those good qualities are still hidden somewhere in my body, in my heart.